>> Sunday, January 24, 2010
*Steps on soapbox*
A week ago, I couldn't think of something to complain about. Today, it's how to choose.
Regarding some of the possibilities, I'm probably too irked to be objective, so I'll stick with one of my pet peeves. What is it, you wonder?
People telling me what I think, what I meant (but did not say), and asking me to defend positions I've never taken (or that even crossed my mind). This isn't aimed at any particular person. I can't remember when it didn't happen, which strikes me as odd. People who don't know me and people who do, it doesn't seem to matter. Too often, people get bent into shape over what they think I meant to say, rather than what I said. And demanding I defend those things I never said.
Part of it, I think, is that, because I'm very straightforward - and people often aren't - it's easy to assume I'm only telling part of my opinion or that I have a hidden agenda. Folks, if I have something to say, I'll say it. You don't have to read between the lines. I don't write anything there.
I'm a fairly unique individual. It's easy, when someone espouses a particular view (particularly if it's not one the other person shared), to assume someone got it from listening to others. That isn't me. I'm not saying I've never been swayed by what someone had to say, but it was because it fit in with my own thinking, included data I didn't have, or involved better reasoning than my own. It's happened. But it didn't happen because of who was telling me, but that what they had to say fit in with my own way of thinking, made sense when I thought about it. Which means, it's still my thinking. My mind can be changed, but you have to have logic that works for me as well as the logic that got me where I am.
What I'm saying is, it's unlikely anyone can predict how I got here or what my opinions are on other topics based on my opinion on one. I'm weird. I don't fit in any particular religion, philosophy, political ideology, area of expertise, mindset, background, race, or mold in general. They not only broke the mold when they made me, the stomped on it a few times for good measure.
But, if you manage to decide what I "really" meant to say or what I was implying, for heaven's sake, don't expect me to defend your interpretation of my words. I won't do it. Ask me to defend what I've said, describe how I got there, say why I think the way I do, no problem. But I get to decide what I think, no one else. And I won't defend positions I don't have.
*Steps off soapbox*